For many of us, we hold on to past experiences never allowing ourselves space or time to heal, let go and free not only ourselves but others of this burden.
The thing is with regrets is that they’re often based on unrealistic expectations that we place on ourselves or others. We continually way ourselves down with our ideals, instead of living in the present.
What if you could end each day without any regrets? How about if you could end the year without a single regret?
Even better, what if you could reach the end of your time on this beautiful earth without a single regret?
I may not be able to 100% guarantee this, though I can guarantee that learning from those who have come before us will sure as hell lead us all in the right direction.
Thanks to Australian nurse and palliative carer, Bronnie Ware, we are able to learn from those who have been brave enough to share their lives biggest regrets during their final time on this magical planet.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This is the most common regret of them all. So often we move through our days meeting others expectations of us, afraid that we might disappoint those we love. If you’re a people pleaser, like me, this is a big one.
Not only do we tend to place others expectations upon ourselves, we can become paralysed with the fear of ‘failure’ when striving to achieve our dreams. Though in the end will you regret that you tried and ‘failed’ or will you regret that you never tried in the first place.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
In our society being a hustler or boss is seen as positive, we work our arses off towards others dreams and expectations without taking time out for what is truly important to us.
Don’t get me wrong there is a time for hard work and dedication, though there is also a time to enjoy the company of those you love and rejoice in your achievements.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Raise your hand if expression yourself makes you feel vulnerable, anxious and wanting to run for the hills… I completely, utterly, 100% understand. Expressing how we feel just doesn’t seem natural in our society of hustle, there’s no time for emotions when you’re concurring your world. Though how you feel is important, how you feel is how you will remember this life.
“People won’t remember what you did, they’ll remember how you made them feel.” Without the ability to express our emotions, we lose sight of telling those closest to us that we love them. We lose sight of the ability that the feeling created within us is also a feeling that can be changed with a simple conversation.
Expressing your feelings is not a conversation or right and wrong, those a conversation of expression, growth and change.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
For many of us, we may be thinking, I’ll never lose touch with my friends. Though as life leads you in opposite directions, your family expands and free time begins to dwindle it can happen.
Just as we make an effort to cultivate and grow our relationships with our lover, we must make the same effort to cultivate and grow our relationships with our friends. Sometime you will grow apart, and your paths will no longer contain common interests and in those cases, it is ok to let go as to not place expectations on each other.
Though often we must make the time and space to work on our friendships, to keep the spark alive and the friendship growing.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is one I think everyone can relate to on some level. With the expectations we place upon ourselves, the mind chatter we allow to fill our heads every waking minute and often the feeling of being ‘unworthy’ seeps into our hearts and stops us from seeing the joy in every day.
What if you could learn to find a sense of inner calm, what if you could let go of all the shoulds and allow yourself authentic and free? I’mherer to tell you it is possible, it all starts with becoming aware. Becoming aware of your thought patterns, behaviour and reactions are the keys to allowing yourself to be happier.
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Have fun on your journey!