Lost In Paradise

Even in the most beautiful places on earth with the ocean at your feet, a breeze through your hair and the sun warming your skin you can feel discontent, indifferent, lacking emotion, ill at ease within your body, at a checkmate or without a compass to guide you.

That feeling of being discontent causes emotional discomfort, vulnerability, sadness, and confusion. We lose balance as we begin to fill the white space in our time in the hopes it’ll ease the feeling of discomfort. We fill our calendars with catch-ups, work longer hours, pump up our exercise routine and join courses – all in the hopes of losing sight of the discomfort.

This is exactly what I had been doing, unconsciously filling the white space to avoid the discomfort. Filling the day from dawn to shut-eye with activities and catch-ups to dislodge the feelings of vulnerability, confusion, being lost and lacking an emotional connection to myself.

By filling our white space we at first begin to feel lighter, a sense of ease as we move our attention from the discontent to those around us. Then we begin to fill more of the white space until we’re running from one catch-up to the next, rushing around, forever running late and juggling one thing to the next. This begins to cause stress and anxiety, and then those original feelings begin to surface again. The feeling of discontent, indifferent, lacking emotion, ill at ease within our body, vulnerability, sadness, and confusion.

How do we break the cycle? How do we shift the discomfort? How do we find balance once more?

Here are a few things that are helping me along my journey:

  • Create more white space, place blocks of time in your calendar for just you. An hour or two a few times a week to do something that you enjoy, it can be anything – morning walk, breakfast at your favourite cafe, bath with beautiful salts, reading in bed, lying in the sunshine. Book it into your calendar and make it a none negotiable as you would if you had an appointment with your doctor or girlfriend.
  • Take 10 minutes a day to walk in the present, all you need is 10 minutes. Step outside and tell yourself that you’ll return to anything else that is going on in 10 minutes. Walk around listening to the noises of the bird, wind, and traffic, take in the shapes and colours of the buildings, take in the nature that surrounds you, smell the ocean breeze, the trees and scents coming from the flowers. Each time a thought pop’s into your head gently remind yourself that you’ll address this at the end of your walk and return to taking in all that surrounds you.
  • Meditate once a day for any length of time – it can be 2 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour. It doesn’t matter how long you do it for, if you listen to music or not, have a mantra or affirmation. Do whatever works for you.
  • Ask yourself each day what will bring me joy today and then do it. It doesn’t have to be something that takes an hour out of your day. It could be calling a friend, texting someone to let them know your thinking of them, your morning coffee, working out at your usual spot, reading a book. Allow yourself the time to do this simple action that’ll bring you joy.

How do you break the cycle? How do you shift the discomfort? I would love to hear if this resonates with you and what works for you in the comments below. Share open and freely, we’re all on a journey to finding our health, happiness and love. What works for you might just be the thing that clicks for someone else, so please share.

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I am so grateful you are here, reading my words and for finding your way to health, happiness and love.

Have fun on your journey!